Almost all of us have been inspired by someone who strode the world stage, by larger-than-life personalities who took a stand at a crossroads of history, made supreme sacrifices, championed lost causes, created great art, or struck off into the wilderness marching to the beat of a different drummer. As was said of Lincoln, those people belong to the ages.
But there are other inspirational characters that play their parts on smaller stages—in the community, in the school system, in families, and in friendships. The impressions they make often don’t seem huge. They seldom result in sudden and dramatic realizations. Their impact is incremental. And the lessons we learn from them can seem miniscule—until those lessons become ingrained and sustaining.
My parents, getting up every day and getting on with their jobs (carpenter and nurse) and the work of raising a family in the years following World War II, demonstrated determination, perseverance, and creativity. I never thought “I want to be like them.” In fact, sometimes—when they were exhausted or short-tempered and not giving me the attention I craved—I was certain I wanted to be nothing like them.
But their traits took hold. The work ethic instilled in me remains so strong that it’s difficult to enjoy a vacation, laze away an afternoon, or relax enough to appreciate a massage.
My maternal grandparents, teachers both, taught me to read before I was old enough to go to school. There were few books for children back in that day, so my grandmother read Nathaniel Hawthorne’s stories before our afternoon naps beneath the chenille spread on the guest room double bed. She explained words I’d never heard before and challenged me to try to understand the characters and plots.
My grandfather, who napped in a chair in front of the TV early in the evening and refused to admit he was “really” asleep, often inspired me to choose adventure over a rest period. When my brother and grandmother dozed off, he’d appear in the doorway or at the window and take me to the garden, to a stream, or to the edge of the woods to tap maple trees for sap to boil down into syrup.
Then there was Miriam Smith, my high school English teacher. She had tremendous energy and force of personality and she pushed us to think—an experience I often dreaded. “What’s the theme of this poem?” she’d ask. I’d cringe and slump in my chair, hoping for invisibility, but knowing she’d spot me and challenge me.
In that age before classroom tech tools, she drew Picasso’s Guernica on the blackboard with white chalk to prepare us for a trip to the Museum of Modern Art to experience artistic focus and perspectives. When we arrived at MOMA, we each drew a slip of paper with the title of a painting. Our objective was to study the painting and write about it. I drew Evening, Honfleur. I remember thinking it was a bunch of dots, not a painting, at least not a painting as I thought one should be.
As I was scheming ways to sweeten the pot and swap with a friend for the title of an artwork that “made sense,” Miriam Smith arrived at my side. She had me step back, then move in close, then step back again. Long after she went off to help the next student, I studied that painting, moving clear across the room, peering at it from the far right and left, even taking off my glasses and squinting.
I can’t remember what I wrote and handed in for that assignment, but I do know I’d like to have a chance to do it over. Nearly fifty years later, the memory of Seurat’s tiny dots and Miriam Smith’s efforts to make me see the big picture—as well as its many elements—inspires me.
When I’m 25,000 words into a novel and overwhelmed by all the words still to be written, I think of those tiny dots of color. Then I think of my parents’ determination to see a job through—one day and one chore at a time. Then I focus on the sentence in front of me.
And, on those days when the revision on my latest project (the sequel to No Substitute for Murder) isn’t getting done because I’m tired or distracted or stuck or every new phrase I write seems as crappy as the one I’m revising, I reach back for inspiration from my grandparents. Then I crawl under the bedspread for a rest, or go out and stalk an adventure.
Who inspires you?
Drop by and leave a comment. If the Dames draw your name, I’ll send you a copy of my most recent release, Sea of Regret, or one of my other titles.
Carolyn J. Rose is the author of several novels, including Hemlock Lake, Through a Yellow Wood, An Uncertain Refuge, Sea of Regret, A Place of Forgetting, and No Substitute for Murder. She penned two humorous cozy mysteries, The Big Grabowski and Sometimes a Great Commotion, with her husband, Mike Nettleton.
She grew up in New York’s Catskill Mountains, graduated from the University of Arizona, logged two years in Arkansas with Volunteers in Service to America, and spent 25 years as a television news researcher, writer, producer, and assignment editor in Arkansas, New Mexico, Oregon, and Washington. She founded the Vancouver Writers’ Mixers and is an active supporter of her local bookstore, Cover to Cover. Her interests are reading, gardening, and not cooking. Website www.deadlyduomysteries.com










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March 4, 2013 at 7:27 am
Meb Bryant
Thank you for the touching blog. I’m reminded how proud I am of our adult children for their exemplary work ethic. Your grandfather sounds quite similar to my own. A cobbler by trade, he always smelled of leather, pipe tobacco, and polish. He made lucky rabbit foot keychains in his spare time. (not so lucky for the rabbits)
Your 25,000 word comment certainly resonates with me, especially since I reached fifty thousand this weekend. Love the title of your novel, SEA OF REGRET, and look forward to the read.
March 4, 2013 at 9:23 am
Carolyn J. Rose
Congratulations on 50,000.
I remember those rabbit-foot key chains and my father saying it wasn’t lucky for the rabbit. I had a blue one.
March 4, 2013 at 9:52 am
Denise Clark
Hi Carolyn, your little story made me think for awhile about my Nan who also had Chenille spreads on their beds where we would have a nap in the pm ,the good old days where there was time for a nap.
March 4, 2013 at 11:03 am
Carolyn J. Rose
I loved the tufted patterns on those bedspreads. We would “drive” tiny trucks on the “roads” between the ridges.
March 4, 2013 at 9:56 am
Marilyn Meredith
Great post! Many inspired me–and of course I’m old enough that all the adults around me had great work ethics. Later in life I joined a writers group with a fabulous woman named Willma Gore (still writing at 90plus) and she taught me so much about writing.
March 4, 2013 at 10:16 am
Carolyn J. Rose
That work ethic is probably the greatest gift from my parents. But it can make it hard to relax. I’m always finding something that needs to be done.
March 4, 2013 at 12:27 pm
laurelrainsnow
Like you, Carolyn, I have a whole host of people (on the smaller stage) who have informed my life with inspirational moments. From family to teachers along the way, they have all left their imprint, and I am grateful. Thanks for sharing your stories…and your new book looks enticing!
March 4, 2013 at 12:51 pm
Elizabeth Lyon
A touching piece, Carolyn. I’m certain I would not be the success I am today had I not absorbed the repeated message from my mother, “You can do anything.” Now I know she’s wrong–the list is very long of what I can’t do, but where it is possible to do something, I have no inner voice stopping me, thanks to her.
March 4, 2013 at 1:47 pm
eloisehill
Carolyn, this was just lovely. I too have a long list of seemingly ordinary people who inspired me in extraordinary ways and continue to do so. Thanks for sharing your inspirations:)
March 4, 2013 at 3:12 pm
Betty Dravis
Like you, Carolyn, I’ve had some fascinating people inspire me along my writing route, starting with my family, friends and teachers. I even had encouragement some entertainment icons. Very blessed…
I really never thought about it, but I knew neither of my grandfathers; since I was youngest of seven children they had passed on by time I was growing up. The women of my ancestors seemed to be the strong ones, with Grannie Sue making the deepest impression because she was with us more. Strong Kentucky woman who bore ten children, the oldest being my father who was a very strong man. He was very influential in everything I do and did. Thanks for refreshing my memories.
SEA OF REGRET is a thought-provoking title. Best with your writing.
Hugs – Betty Dravis
March 4, 2013 at 3:47 pm
Susan Kennington
An enjoyable article of memories and insight that led me to think of a few profound teaching moments of my past. Well done.
March 4, 2013 at 4:38 pm
Michael Havelin
I don’t know that I was inspired by anyone in particular. Writing seems to be a genetic defect in my line, and four of us currently cranking material out goes to prove it. If I have to credit anyone, I’ll credit my mom. I can remember walking up the granite steps to the Yonkers Public Library that first day she took me. it changed my life. BTW, I’m a guy, Not a dame.
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March 4, 2013 at 6:06 pm
Carolyn J. Rose
Libraries rock! I even volunteer at a high school library in my copious free time. LOL – copious. And BTW, I’m always delighted to see a guy chime in on the Dames’ blog.
March 4, 2013 at 4:48 pm
Carolyn J. Rose
It’s so great to see so many of you sharing your stories of inspirational people from your past. A toast to all of them.
March 4, 2013 at 5:08 pm
Joanna Lee Doster
So many special people along the way inspired me; My parents, my dear older brother, who paved the way for my me, a wonderfully patient and dedicated Spanish high school teacher, .my best friend who keeps me balanced and my special FB friends and the very best person who inspired me is the inimical rarest of all soulsBetty Dravis, who has guided me, listened to me, has been a true leader of Betty Davis is more than charitable, ,
March 4, 2013 at 6:31 pm
Liz
I am inspired by a young friend who seems to have found a good balance of work and family such that her upbeat handling of aging parents and young children leave me with hope.
March 4, 2013 at 6:40 pm
Carolyn J. Rose
Liz, I have trouble with that balance thing – and not just in terms of parceling out my time. When I get a little older I’m going to order foam rubber clothing or maybe training wheels.
March 4, 2013 at 8:00 pm
Sarah Scott
Well, I USED to be inspired by Lance Armstrong…all the more reason to keep our inspirers locally sourced. On that level, at the risk of making you blush, you inspire me, Carolyn. I’ve long admired your productivity and adept writing. It’s even more inspiring to read about your own pencil-gnawing moments when the writing isn’t going well. Thanks for an engaging blog entry.
March 5, 2013 at 11:19 am
Carolyn J. Rose
Locally sourced – interesting thought. And I’m blushing. Gotta go gnaw another pencil.
March 6, 2013 at 9:25 am
Carolyn J. Rose
Congratulations to Elizabeth Simmons who won the drawing for a copy of Sea of Regret.
March 8, 2013 at 3:01 pm
pam stanek
You’re quite an inspiration yourself, gal. Thank you.